Ins and Outs: 2025
My New Year's resolutions are often scribbled on hotel stationery and later forgotten in my purse. Despite writing resolutions being a tradition I relish in, this year I opted for something more practical and reflective. I find great sentimentality and enjoyment in the ritual of preparing for the New Year, allowing myself to consider intentions I will bring forth. Sitting by the fire at my cabin in Northern California on the 31st, I thought about what brings me joy and what does not. This practice resulted in the internet-inspired proclamation of what I will bring “in” to 2025 and what I believe should be left “out.” From my notes app to you, I present this list. Some aspirational, some meditative, and others just a necessary removal from my life. Borrow what you like and leave what you don’t. Happy New Year; I wish you many days of luck, light, love, and blessings.
Ins:
Practicing gratitude
Watercolors
Daily movement
Admitting when I am wrong
Local galleries and Georgia O’Keefe paintings
MEUF
Broadway
Natural beauty
Fresh flowers
Taking care of my skin (my body, soul, & health too)
Dressing up
Holistic medicine and acupuncture
Bowery, the Upper West Side, and Carroll Gardens
Going dancing
Bobs
Darning
Kissing & hugging & cuddling & good sex & PDA
Scarves
Sleepovers
Being fiercely passionate and dedicated
Matcha + tea + decaf coffee
Naps
Therapy
Instagram.com (not the app)
My dog Charley
Reading LOTS
Postcards
Beaucoup d'eau
Facetiming and voicemails
Weekend trips
Grounding
Quality over quantity
GoMacro bars
Card games + Mancala
Umber
Genuine relationships
My Duolingo streak
Leather journals
Investing AND volunteering
30 minutes a day outside
Waking up early
Watching the “classics”
Combating climate change
Self-respect
Trying new things
Meditation and pausing
Practicing my french
Eating slower (and not like I am in a race)
Outs:
Comparison
Vodka
Guilting others
Walking on eggshells
Making it about the girl rather than the guy
Judgment
Wearing shoes that are too small for me
Overgrown eyebrows (disclaimer: I am talking only about mine)
UberEats + DoorDash
Dating assholes
Screen Time after 11 pm
Speaking unkindly
Not telling people how I feel
Eating gluten and dairy when I do not want to
Eggs (especially scrambled)
Buying coffee and drinks out every day
Excess and overconsumption
Instant gratification
Asking people how they are/ how they slept without caring about the answer
Making excuses
Skipping breakfast
Not bringing a hostess gift
Less than 6 hours of sleep
Banana on sushi
Cold foods in the winter
Talking about other people’s bodies
Not leaving the house
Using lots of plastic
Overscheduling
Wearing denim on the plane